I’m nervous about starting therapy. Is that normal?
It’s totally normal to be nervous about starting therapy. It can be difficult to imagine the words around what you are feeling. Maybe you’ve experienced feeling tongue tied when trying to open up to friends or loved ones in the past. The fear around that can feel overwhelming. Getting the counseling we need can be challenging. And although it’s normal to be nervous, that doesn’t make it feel great. It takes courage to continue towards getting the help you need.
Therapy is a space where you can be yourself and feel safe from judgement. I’m committed to finding a way to care for your nervousness and ensure sessions are as comfortable as possible.
I’m here if you want to talk about it during a free phone consultation.
How do I know if you are the right therapist for me?
Take your time to read through my website. If you sense that I may be a good fit based on what you are reading, you can self schedule a consultation appointment or email me for additional appointment times of none of the available ones work for you.
During a free phone consultation, you can ask me about how I have helped other people like you before, ask how I work as a therapist, or any other questions you may have that are specific-to-you. You’ll also be able to tell me what’s up and we can decide together how I can help.
It may be helpful to think of the first few sessions as trying out the waters together. During the sessions, you’ll be able to see how you feel working with me. My approach is not going to work for everyone. What’s most important to me is that you find someone who you feel is the right fit for you. We can explore that together.
What if I don’t want to talk about something?
If something feels overwhelming or even terrifying to discuss, that’s actually very normal. It can often feel difficult to talk about some things. During our sessions, you never have to talk about something you’re not comfortable talking about. It’s my job to give you space to slowly start to work through the tough stuff. Gradually and at a pace that feels comfortable to you, you can share what you feel ready to share.
You can also share with me that you are nervous to open up, and we can talk about that too. Whatever is present for you. Whatever you are going through. Bring that to session and we can explore that together.
I’m scared that if I open up, you will think I’m crazy.
If you open up to me, I will not think you are crazy. I will think you are extremely brave and strong. Many of my clients have had the same fear (that people would think they are crazy).
Through my own life journey and working with my clients, I know how ‘normal’ your experience is.
You are not crazy. Nothing you can say will cause me to judge you.
I know many of us are overwhelmed, we all have our strengths and weaknesses, and often gender, sex, and death/dying in the workplace were never something we were taught about very well growing up.
Whatever it is you’re going through, I provide a safe space where you can feel heard and supported without judgement.
Does what we talk about in therapy remain confidential?
It can be concerning feeling like things you say or do in therapy could “get out”. So I want you to know that unless there is imminent danger to yourself or someone else or you give me written permission, everything you share with me is completely confidential.
There is nothing more important than your privacy.
You can rest assured that you can talk about anything without fear of that information getting out.
If you have specific questions about how confidentiality works, you can ask me during your during a free phone consultation or anytime during our work together.
How long will therapy take?
You might be asking about how long therapy will take because you are currently struggling and want relief fast.
If this is true for you, I want you to know that on average, my new clients start seeing improvements after a few sessions. By that point, they they feel more in control of heightened emotions and are feeling more confident and clear about what is going on for them.
The total duration of therapy varies from client to client. Some of my clients find 12-24 weeks to be enough to resolve immediate challenges. While other clients feel more supported by longer term therapy 12-24 months.
We will work together to find the length of time that works for you.
What can I expect during the first session?
Overall, you can think of the first session as a free-flowing conversation through which we start getting to know each other. I’ll invite you to share more about yourself and we can also talk about what’s worked or not worked for your mental health in the past.
Some questions that I like to ask during a first session include:
What brought you to therapy?
What goals would you like to reach by going to therapy?
Are there any concerns that need attention first (ex. feeling suicidal, self-harm, wanting to quit drinking, a recent sexual assault, etc.).
You can ask me questions as well. You might be curious about about my training or what sessions will be like.
The most important part of a first session is that you see if you feel I’m a good fit for you. If you feel supported, seen, and at-ease with me, we can discuss if you’d like to meet the following week.
How can I get started?
I’m here to talk during a free phone consultation where you can tell me what’s up and we can decide together how I can help.